So here's the question: who traditionally gives speeches at a wedding reception? Is there a list somewhere of the people expected to say something? In the interest of keeping it to a minimum, I'm hoping it's nothing more than parents, best man, and maid of honor. But if I'm expected to give time to the whole wedding party, and the grandparents, and the sister of the groom, and the caterer, I wouldn't want to offend anyone who's owed some time.
I'd ask them who they want to give time to, but I'm sure they'll just say, "Oh, I don't know. Who traditionally gives a speech?"